By Sonya M Lenzo, Author of “The Romance Enhancer” newsletter
www.yourchanceforromance.com
There is an interesting concept explored in the book “Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus” by John Gray.
In this book, it states that women consider one act of love as if it had the same value as an other act
of love REGARDLESS OF COST. Men do not usually think this way. They are more likely to think, well, I bought
my girlfriend a very expensive gift for her birthday, now I can forget about romancing her for a long while.
Women, typically, would prefer, that a man would take the same amount of money, add a dash of thoughtfulness, and
spead it out over a longer period of time.
Frankly, once women get to a certain age, they are a bit jaded. They might well prefer a LOT of thoughtfulness
and very little or no money at all.
Let me give an example. When my brother and his wife were coming up on their 25th wedding anniversary, their
children wanted to do something special, but were all “poor college students”. So they “kidnapped” their parents
and took them on a tour of all the places that had been important in their romantic lives…Their first date, where
they got engaged, etc. It took a lot of snooping among their parents’ friends to find these locations, but they
did it. When they were done, they brought them back to the rest of the family for an anniversary cake. My brother and his wife
were misty eyed from the trip down memory lane!
There is one gift anyone can give that costs nothing and has AMAZING romantic results. A number of years ago, I dated
a man who was the an exceptionally talented listener. He seemed entranced by everything I said. When I was with him, I
chattered on, and he never judged nor interrupted. Not only did I fall wildly in love with him, but I was happier than
I had ever been in my life.
You can give someone something of great value by listening to them…think it’s not romantic? Try it. But be careful.
You may never be able to get rid of them. It’s sort of like feeding a stray cat.
Here is another fun romantic idea that owes more to imagination than cash. I once cooked a meal and served it to a
date blindfolded (the date, not the cook). I made him guess the food by taste.
We did another fun thing at a friends retirement party. We had pictures from all her past birthday parties. We came in
outfits as close to those in the pictures we could find, we served the same food, we used the same decorations, and
we played the same games. How long has it been since you played “spin the bottle” and “pin the tail on the donkey”?
We laughed and laughed. We took pictures but all swore we would not post them on the Internet! There was at least one
new romance begun that night, however.
Once your mind starts the process of thinking that ROMANCE is a state of mind, not an elaborate, expensive production
you will be swept away by what you can think of to try out next. Let me know your ideas!
